While today - most people are remembering the losses of September 11, 2001, my family and I are in the middle of grieving the loss we experienced on September 5, 2013 - the death of our middle son.
His funeral was Monday and late last night, I decided to write a few thoughts and feelings on this terrible experience, based off the advice I received from another mother who buried a son several years ago. I was going through my list of "what ifs" with her. "What if I had done this or that for him. I should have taken him here or there." She grabbed me by the shoulders and looked me in the eyes and said, "Don't do that to yourself. If you have to look back into the past, look with the purpose of what you could do differently going forward. Don't look back to see what you should have done then. That will only drive you crazy."
Here are some things I want to do differently - or more of - for my surviving children.
On the Loss of a Son - Lessons Learned By a Grieving Adoptive Mother
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