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Foster Care Basics Jul 31st 2011, 10:00 The following 6 statements describe the basic knowledge base of successful foster parents. Of course there is more to being a foster parent, but these 6 points are a great place to start. Note: Stay up-to-date on foster care and adoption issues with my weekly newsletter. Foster Care Skill #1 - Know your home and family. Before jumping into foster care, most families spend two or three years just thinking about it. Here are a few points to consider before making the final decision on whether or not to do foster care. There are a few restrictions on who can become a foster parent and each state has its own guidelines to follow. There are several skills that successful foster parents need to master, such as patience and the ability to say good-bye. It's important to prepare your children for foster care too. All members of your immediate family, even hesitant husbands, need to be on board with this decision as adding to the family, even if just temporary, does shift the natural flow of your home. Know that not all of your family and friends will be supportive of your decision to become a foster family. Understand that fostering can and will have an impact on your marriage, but a healthy dose of humor can ease any stressful situation. If after some research you decide that foster care is not for you, there are other ways to be of support foster children or those who are active foster parents. Perhaps you want to foster, but feel that this is just not the right time. There are several things you can do now to prepare yourself and your family to becoming foster parents later. Foster Care Skill #2 - Know how to communicate. You will be communicating with many different people as a foster parent. This list may include: birth family teachers and other school officials therapists social workers and other agency staff judges and other court personnel, like a GAL or a CASA worker other foster parents your family and friends, who may just not understand your role as a foster parent. the child Foster Care Skill #3 - Know that working with foster children and the foster care system can be challenging. The children in foster care have often endured extreme abuse and neglect. A child's way of communicating is often through behaviors. The foster care system is also often a new entity for many foster parents. Consider the ages, gender, and behaviors of the children your home and family will best be suited for. Know that challenges of working with a foster child also includes the challenges of working with a frustrated foster care system. Consider how the first day with your foster child in your home will go and how you will establish your new role as a foster parent. Foster Care Skill #4 - Know how to successfully manage behaviors of challenging children. Due to the past abuse and neglect corporal punishment is not allowed to be used on children in foster care. If the discipline method causes physical discomfort, it is not OK. For example: going without a meal, withholding bathroom breaks, push-ups, or standing in the corner on tip-toes. Foster Care Skill #5 - Know how to manage a child's losses as well as your own. Many times a child's grief and loss (grieving the loss of their home and family as well as the past abuse) can trigger responses in foster parents. Grief is very personal and each child will go through grief at his own pace. It's important to understand the grief and loss process in children so that we may be better able to meet their needs. There are several factors that may influence a foster child's grief. The length or depth of the grief may be contributed to the type of trauma or even the child's developmental age. Part of being a foster parent is helping a child grieve her losses in a healthy way. Know that you may not be able to complete a foster care adoption of the child you are fostering. Most state's will focus on placing a child with relatives first if the child is unable to return home to his birth parents. However, there are thousands of children who are legally-free and ready for adoption from foster care. Foster Care Skill #6 - Know how to work with others. As a foster parent you will be working with many different professionals. This really goes along with communication, but there is more to being a good team member. As a foster parent you will be asked to attend meetings with a group of people. It's important to be prepared to participate. You have valuable insight into the child's needs and the group needs to hear what you have to say. Many new foster parents are nervous about meeting the child's birth family, but in time you may find that you are fostering or mentoring the whole family. This is important because foster parents are a big part of the family reunification process. Be the best foster parents you can be. Sign up for a free ecourse today, Learn How to Be a Great Foster Parent in 5 Weeks

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